your health your all

"My health will dictate how long I stay in the job. That's the only important thing. It is what you have to value most and what you have to protect most because without it you cannot do justice to yourself, your family or whatever you do in life.", Sir Alex Ferguson

action and happiness

"Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action," Benjamin Disraeli

do what is right

Leaders must have the conviction to do what is right and not what is popular, even if taking that path may not win them political points.

"Leaders must have the conviction to push through what needs to be done, rather than what is politically expedient or populist," Deputy Prime Minister of Singapore Wong Kan Seng.

give until there's nothing left

"Everyday we get to give the gift of life, it can be painful, it can be terrifying, but in the end it's worth it. Every time. We all have the opportunity to give. Maybe the gifts are not as dramatic as what happens in the operating room, maybe the gift is to try and make a simple apology, maybe it's to understand another person's point of view, maybe it's to hold a secret for a friend. The joy supposedly is in the giving, so when the joy is gone, when the giving starts to feel more like a burden, that's when you stop. But if you're like most people I know, you give till it hurts, and then you give some more."



Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 6 Episode 10

we can't fight the past but we can learn from it

"Sometimes the past is something you just can't let go of. And sometimes the past is something we'll do anything to forget. And sometimes we learn something new about the past that changes everything we know about the present."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 6 Episode 9

stop thinking about what's gonna happen, focus on what is right in front

"We're all susceptible to it, the dread and anxiety of not knowing what's coming. It's pointless in the end, because all the worrying and the making of plans for things that could or could not happen, it only makes things worse. So walk your dog or take a nap. Just whatever you do, stop worrying. Because the only cure for paranoia is to be here, just as you are."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 6 Episode 3

Five Stages Of Grief

There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us but there are always five.

1. Denial: This can't be happening, it just can't!
2. Anger: This isn't fair! I want to hurt what did this to me!
3. Bargaining: I would give anything to undo this!
4. Depression: Why do I even go on?
5. Acceptance: This has happened, and I can get over it.

However, not everyone goes through all five stages, and not everyone goes through them in that order.

a wedding vow

"Today's the day my life begins. All my life I've been just me. Just a smart mouth kid. Today I become a man. Today I become a husband. Today I become accountable to someone other than myself. Today I become accountable to you. To our future. To all the possibilities that a marriage has to offer. Together, no matter what happens, I'll be ready. For anything. For everything. To take on life, to take on love. To take on possibility and responsibility. Today Izzie Stevens, our life together begins. And I for one can't wait."

Alex Karev, Grey's Anatomy Season 5 Episode 22

Social Capital

Social capital refers to connections within and between social networks. It shares the core idea "that social networks have value". It is the collective value of all 'social networks' and the inclinations that arise from these networks to do things for each other.

In simple terms, social capital is the value of your friendships and the amount of support and help you can get should you require.

right the wrong

"As doctors we can't undo our mistakes, and we rarely forgive ourselves for them. But, it's a hazard of the trade.

But, as human beings we can always try to do better. To be better. To right a wrong. Even when it feels irreversible. Of course, I'm sorry doesn't always cut it. Maybe because we use it so many different ways. As a weapon. As an excuse.

But, when we are really sorry, when we use it right. When we mean it. When our actions say what words never can. When we get it right "I'm sorry" is perfect. When we get it right, "I'm sorry" is redemption."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 5 Episode 21

nothing is in vain

"If there's a crisis, you don't freeze, you move forward. You get the rest of us to move forward. Because you've seen worse. You've survived worse, and you know we'll survive too. You say you're all dark and twisty. It's not a flaw, it's a strength. It makes you who you are."

Derek Shepherd, Grey's Anatomy Season 5 Episode 19

"When you're little, night time is scary because there are monsters hiding right under the bed. When you get older, the monsters, are different... self doubt, loneliness, regret... and though you may be older and wiser, you still find yourself scared of the dark.



Sleep. It's the easiest thing to do. You just... close your eyes. But for so many of us, sleep seems out of our grasp. We want it, but, we don't know how to get it. But once we face our demons, face our fears, and turn to each other for help, night time is not so scary, because we realize, we are not all alone in the dark."


Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 5 Episode 9

make it right

"It happens, people make mistakes. You know, they sleep with the wrong person and they hide it, but if you ask me, it’s the part that comes after that matters - the part where you make it right.”

Lexie Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 5 Episode 2

the fight

"You didn't invent the contest....The contest is a lion fight. So chin up, put your shoulders back, walk proud, strut a little. Don't lick your wounds. Celebrate. The scars you bear are the sign of a competitor. You're in a lion's fight. Just because you didn't win doesn't mean you don't know how to roar."

Richard Webber, Grey's Anatomy Season 4 Episode 12

Haha i found this pretty funny!

"In the beginning, God created the Heaven and the earth, at least that’s what they say. He created the birds of the air and the beasts of the fields, and he looked at his creation and he saw that it was good.

And then God created man, and it’s been downhill ever since. The story goes on to say that God created man in his own image, but there’s not much proof of that. After all God made the sun and the moon and the stars, and all man makes is trouble.

And when man finds himself in trouble, which is most of the time, he turns to something bigger than himself. To love or faith or religion to make sense of it all."

Miranda Bailey, Grey's Anatomy Season 4 Episode 11

A hurt shared is halved, a joy shared is doubled

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”



Henri Nouwen

A healthy level of fear is encouraged

"It’s good to be scared, it means you still have something to lose."

Richard Webber, Grey's Anatomy Season 4 Episode 10

Communication 101

"Communication. It's the first thing we really learn in life. Funny thing is, once we grow up, learn our words and really start talking, the harder it becomes to know what to say. Or how to ask for what we really need.

At the end of the day, there are some things you just can't help but talk about. Some things we just don't want to hear. And some things we say because we can't be silent any longer. Some things are more than what you say, they're what you do. Some things you say because there's no other choice. Some things you keep to yourself. And not too often, but every now and then, some things simply speak for themselves."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 7

"In life only one thing is certain no matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, you are going to make mistakes, you’re going to hurt people, you’re going to get hurt and if you ever want to recover there’s really only one thing you can say… I forgive you.

Forgive and forget. That's what they say. It's good advice, but it's not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us, we want to be right.

Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled...old wounds never heal. And the most we can hope for, is that one day we'll be lucky enough to forget."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 4 Episode 4

"Courage is the capacity to do what is right even when it is unpopular", by Pastor.

Christian maturity

A spiritually matured christian is:

(1) positive under pressure (cause they put their trust in God);
(2) sensitive to the needs of other people (not putting their own needs in front);
(3) a peacemaker, not a troublemaker;
(4) patient;
(5) prayerful.


Recognition is what people say about you, but character is what God knows about you!

beneath the facade

"We should not be quick to jump to conclusion about a person, until we get to know them. Behind every action or speech, there is a reason for it, like the way we talk or behave", by Lilian.

we don't know about much, all we know is desire

"Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have. Desire leaves us heartbroken, it wears us out. Desire can wreck your life. But as tough as wanting something can be; the people who suffer the most, are those who don't know what they want."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 3 Episode 21

Closer

"At the end of the day, when it comes down to it, all we really want is to be close to somebody. So this thing where we all keep our distance and pretend not to care about each other, it's usually a load of bull.

So we pick and choose who we want to remain close to, and once we've chosen those people, we tend to stick close by. No matter how much we hurt them; the people that are still with you at the end of the day, those are the ones worth keeping. And sure, sometimes close can be too close. But sometimes, that invasion of personal space, it can be exactly what you need."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 3 Episode 10

Write your history

"Some people believe that without history, our lives amount to nothing. At some point we all have to choose: do we fall back on what we know, or do we step forward to something new? It's hard not to be haunted by our past. Our history is what shapes us... what guides us. Our history resurfaces time after time.

So we have to remember sometimes the most important history is the history we’re making today."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 3 Episode 20

"Greater pressures bring greater anointing. In order to have the capacity to hold the anointing, we are stretched in every way", by Dad and Lilian Ho.

"always do the right things right", by Dad.

"it's not important whether we win an argument or not, but how much we treasure the relationship with the person we are arguing with. Many times, we forget about the matter - meaning it's not that important after all", by Lilian Ho (cell group sister of 9 years and counting).

Derek: "I was a jerk. Sometimes boyfriends can be jerks, but it doesn't mean you stop talking to them... You get that I'm saying I'm sorry, right?"

Meredith: "You yelled at me for no reason, and then you walked away. And now you show up here."

Derek: "Of course I showed up. Why wouldn't I? You don't trust me?"

Meredith: "I do."

Derek: "Okay, well, this is how it works. You fight sometimes, and somebody apologizes. From now on, you can expect that I'm gonna show up. Even if I yell. Even if you yell. I'm always gonna show up."
 
 
The expected's just the beginning.
The unexpected is what changes our lives.
 
 
Grey's Anatomy Season 3 Episode 13

Don't look back in anger

"In life we are taught that there are seven deadly sins. We all know the big ones: gluttony, pride, lust. But the thing you don't hear much about is anger. Maybe it's because we think anger's not that dangerous, that we can control it. My point is, maybe we don't give anger enough credit. Maybe it can be a lot more dangerous than we think. After all when it comes to destructive behavior, it did make the top seven.

So what makes anger different from the six other deadly sins? It's pretty simple really, you give into a sin like envy or pride and you only hurt yourself. Try lust or coveting and you'll only hurt yourself and probably one or two others. But anger? Anger is the worst. The mother of all sins. Not only can anger drive you over the edge, when it does you can take an awful lot of other people with you."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 25

"A wise man once said you can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it... what he meant is nothing comes without a price. So before you go into battle, you better decide how much you're willing to lose. Too often, going after what feels good means letting go of what you know is right. And letting someone in means abandoning the walls you've spent a lifetime building.

Of course, the toughest sacrifices are the ones we don't see coming...when we don't have time to come up with a strategy to pick a side or to measure the potential loss. When that happens, when the battle chooses us and not the other way around, that's when the sacrifice can turn out to be more than we can bear."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 23

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.

"Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human. Maybe we're thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we're thankful for the things we'll never know.

At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing is reason enough to celebrate."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 9

The Afters - Beautiful Love (Acoustic)

One of my favorites (okay i have MANY favorites, how ironic but yes many favorites).

This is the acoustic version - pardon the quality because it was a bootleg live video recording. Nevertheless, nice guitar works.

What a beautiful smile
Can I stay for a while.

Meredith to Derek:

"I lied. I’m not out of this relationship. I’m in. I’m so in it’s humiliating because here I am begging...

Okay, here it is. Your choice, it's simple. Her or me. And I'm sure she's really great.

But, Derek, I love you. In a really, really big - pretend to like your taste in music, let you eat the last piece of cheesecake, hold a radio over my head outside your window - unfortunate way that makes me hate you love you. So pick me. Choose me. Love me."


Bailey to Derek:

"It’s not hard, it’s only painful. But it’s not hard. You know what to do already. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be in so much pain."

- Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 5

No one likes to lose control... It's a sign of weakness. Of not being up to the task. And still, there are times when it just gets away from you, when the world stops spinning.. No matter how hard you fight it, you fall and its scary as hell.

Except there's an upside to free falling... It's the chance you give your friends to catch you.

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 2 Episode 3

The ugly truth about secrets

"One thing is certain, whatever it is we're trying to hide, we're never ready for when the truth gets naked. That's the problem with secrets... Like misery, they love company. They pile up and up until they take over everything, until you don't have room for anything else. Until you're so full of secrets you feel like you're going to burst.

The thing people forget is how good it can feel when you finally set secrets free. Whether good or bad, at least they're out in the open. Like it or not. And once your secrets are out in the open, you don't have to hide behind them. But the problem with secrets is, even when you think you're in control... You're not."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 1 Episode 9

Show me something, give me a reason to believe

"At the end of the day faith is a funny thing. It turns up when you don't really expect it.

It's like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamed. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And it's not so important that it's happy ever after, just that it's happy right now.

See once in a while, once in a blue moon, people will surprise you, and once in a while people may even take your breath away."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 1 Episode 8

Seize the day

“A couple of hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say.


I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I'd have to say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of rejection; sometimes the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo?


The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can't pretend we hadn't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day.


Still sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore. Until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin meant.


That knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping, and that even the biggest failure, even the worst most intractable mistake, beats the hell out of never trying.”


Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 1 Episode 6

It's all about lines.

It's all about lines. The finish line at the end of residency. Waiting in line for a chance at the operating table. And then there is the most important line. The line separating you from the people you work with. It doesn't help to get too familiar, to make friends.

You need boundaries between you and the rest of the world. Other people are far too messy. It's all about lines. Drawing lines in the sand and praying like hell no one crosses them.

At some point you have to make a decision.

Boundaries don't keep other people out, they fence you in. Life is messy. That's how we're made. So you can waste your life drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross.

Here's what I know, if you're willing to take the chance, the view from the other side is spectacular.

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 1 Episode 2

The future is ours to take,
The future is ours to make,
The future... is in our hands.

More than just a game

"I can't think of any one reason why I want to be a surgeon, but I can think of 1,000 reasons why I should quit. They make it hard on purpose. There are lives in our hands. There comes a moment when it's more than just a game and you either take that step forward or turn around and walk away. I could quit, but here's the thing... I love the playing field."

Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy Season 1 Episode 1

How aptly Meredith put it; what she said can be easily juxtaposed with our daily lives and our walk with God.

1. I can't think of any one reason why I want to serve, but i can think of 1,000 reasons why I should quit.
2. They (the trials and tribulations) make it hard on purpose.
3. There are lives in our hands (the great commission).
4. There comes a moment when it's more than just a name or face in the crowd, and you either take that step forward or turn around and walk away.
5. I could quit, but here's the thing... I am called into fellowship with Jesus (1 Corinthians 1:9).

Quote: Ghosts of Girlfriends Past (Movie)

"Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less, and he was right. But power isn’t happiness, and I think that maybe happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less…"

Connor Mead, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past (Movie)